Hello everyone welcome back to this channel this time is going to be a little bit different
It's not going to be as positive as the other one, this time I'm going to talk to you about my three worst
Experiences with Chinese guys and I decided to do a top three from the third to the first... DISCLAIMER!!!
I hope everyone will just listen to this and not get offended because I met so many beautiful people too
but I think it's right to share the
Experiences that we all want to forget when it comes to dating right? Then let's get started! At the third position
We have a guy I met on a language exchange app!
He wrote to me first after a while like some months of texting we realized that actually
We liked each other's! first date was good. At least for me I think, and
after that date, we started to video call every day talking about our life, or
interest, future... and all this kind of stuff
But at the second date something went wrong. I invited him to sleep here and that night something happened...
Now I'm not going to get into details. I don't think he's respectful for the person
I'm talking about, but there was a problem!
I was not used to it, but I liked that guy so much then I didn't care. After a while
I thought about it, and I said you know what? We can deal with this together, but after that date
He disappeared. He didn't give me any
Explanation so I try to ask him... and guess on what day did I ask???
On Valentine's Day!
How silly am I ?!?
and he answer me that we were not perfect together,
We were too different, and we didn't understand each other basically.
I was dropped on Valentine's Day for something that
It was not even my problem!
I don't like when people are coward and
They are not brave enough to tell you what they really want and what they don't.
Because I have I am like this and I'm so naive that I expect everyone to do the same
But let's move on to the next patient! the second position is owned by a guy that I met
Actually on Instagram! I saw his pictures, and I thought it was really my type
So I started to like his pictures and after a while he actually wrote to me first
He told me about his life, that he was travelling around the world for his job,
And he actually was coming really frequently in Italy...
No! it's not that I didn't want that... I really liked him
But I knew deep down inside
me, that he wasn't the right guy for me. That is my fault for being naive...
I started to decline all the
Invitations every time he was coming to Italy because I knew I would have liked him so much when we were going to see ourselves
In real life, but after a while of course I couldn't resist anymore and I accepted.
I said "you know what? I'm just gonna have fun!
Even if I really like him! because he's my type and everything, but I just want to have fun"
Well it didn't happen, but he was a little
Bit tricky because when he came here, he was like "you know I think I want to see you again,
I come to Italy very frequently,
I'm not the type of guy just going to run away..."
And I was so stupid to believe that. of course! he disappeared. Actually not totally
but he was just spreading messages every time he was bored or maybe he didn't have anything to do at all
or
Maybe when he was just like "let's keep a safe place when I come back to Italy I'm sure I'm gonna have my food again"
Mmm. No. Even if I really really like this guy, I thought that
probably I didn't want to see him again
just because of the fact that he told me those things and
he didn't show me that actually he wanted those things. I would have been really really okay
with the casual dating if only he
didn't tell me all that stuff, because, since the beginning, I was clear on my intentions but he
Probably wasn't. The lesson I learned from this experience is that
Sometimes you're not in the same point in life as the other
Person. You probably are in two different places and you want some different things: you just have to admit that. Just don't trust
Anyone at first. so the first place goes to... another guy I met on tinder!
right?!
Hahaha
if you meet a person on tinder, at least in here, to me it means It's just a casual date. We're going out
We're going to have fun
And that's it! I had some misunderstandings in here.
And I am gonna tell you why... I met this guy on tinder and we actually went out
really soon, after two or three weeks we were texting
I just went on this date, just to make sure he wasn't like a crazy person...
Because you know in Italy you get a lot of crazy people. I thought he was completely fine
But there was something that I really didn't understand. He was so
Exaggerated in everything!
I hurt my foot because I had some shoes that they were a little bit uncomfortable
And he was like "oh don't worry next time
I'm gonna get you a new pair of shoes"
what?!?
I don't want a new pair of shoes!
I'm just saying that my feet are hurting and you don't have to run! This extreme
Caring at the beginning looked a little bit fake to me, and I wasn't used to this type of approach so I said "okay
I'm just gonna go home and let's see we can arrange something for next time"
I have to say it was the first time I met a Chinese guy that was actually so
exaggerating and showing that much care and that much... EFFORT!! In casual dating... because I'm not used to it!
Even if there's something serious people don't treat you like a doll and even if they are you think there is something is going wrong.
Really wrong. because you start to think that that person deep down inside
It's someone else. but at that time
I was really really sad and I was still suffering for the guy of the second position...
Yeah, how silly I was... I thought you know what? who care! I'm just gonna have fun
Second time we saw each other's he treated me like I was a princess
I never experienced anything like that before in my life
And I'm not used to get treated like a doll that has to break every two meters of
Walking, I was not strong enough at that time
And I was really naive and still not okay with my self-esteem because of the last experience I had...
that I actually
Fell for this guy... there was nothing worse
I could do! because I knew deep inside that this guy was
Faking everything... it was too much. He didn't want me to take my wallet outside,
He didn't want me to pay for anything, he was extremely
caring in
Everything... was just too much, and I knew deep inside there was something wrong
But I was so naive to keep going on and of course he disappeared and when I asked him his intentions
He he wasn't really clear on what he wanted too... I have to say this:
I am saying it to Chinese guys that are living in the Wes,t in Europe at least... don't do
This... is horrible. because what I felt from this approach is that I felt used and didn't want all
those lies
before
Because I felt like he was
Tricking me hey
This is useless! because you can be completely honest with people... if the other person okay
Then you're gonna have a great night... if the other person runs away
Then you can just move on to the next that is going to say yes!
Let's just be honest from the beginning because this thing is ruining the image
That some girls can have about you guys. I've been trying to understand every point of view
And I'm still trying to understand so many things
But this was too much to me to understand at first. So what I learned from here guys and girls
This is not a good thing to do... for two day,. I thought it was my fault
I had some bad self-esteem
I felt really stupid... I thought that the problem was me, but then it's not! if there are some
Misunderstanding in these these I think is ...first first of all
Because I noticed that some Chinese guys thinks that Western girls are easy! so for some people
They can just do "this" and get all the girls they want... no! it's not working this way!
It's working that if I like you, if I want to have fun, and if you want to have fun
And you like me... then that's what happens!
so let's close this video
I just wanted to say to you: don't trust anyone at first and... try to understand
the other person as much as possible, and if you want to have fun
Just have fun and do not think about anything else... every country has its own
Medical patients! so I can say that now I'm actually completely fine with my life
I'm happy where I am
I don't think about those people anymore, but I just wanted to give you an advice and tell you that nothing is what it seems
especially
Intercultural casual dating
so I hope you like this video
I hope you don't feel offended in any way because that wasn't my intention
Actuallyrunning this YouTube channel talk about this with you guys
Makes me feel a little bit better because I know I can help some people to avoid certain types of situation
So I hope you enjoyed it
I want to say thank you all for keep following on Instagram, keep supporting me through private messages,
I really appreciate that. I would like to know what your experiences are! I'm curious to know if
You had some bad experience like I did... If you want to see more videos you can subscribe to my youtube channel
I'm going to do more and more...
Thank you so much, and I'll see you on my next video.
Bye. Bye
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