Why do so many people love having sex in public places?
I checked out the footage online.
(it was a slow news day, okay?).
and I felt almost nostalgic.
"Young love," I thought wistfully,.
as I made pancakes for the kids.
"They must really be into each other.
It's been a long time since I've had.
sex on a train platform.
A very long time, since I've never.
actually had sex on a train platform.
Still, I vividly recall the thrill of risky sex,.
sneaking a shag in when there's a good chance of being caught.
Most of us will, if only from our younger days.
Who didn't smuggle their boyfriend into their room and.
have a quickie before their parents got home?.
It feels subversive and exciting,.
with a shivery sense of triumph when you succeed.
Or, er, so I hear.
Yep, this is certainly taboo.
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Having sex in public places is a little more.
kinky than sneaky bedroom sex,.
but it's on the same continuum.
And, as sexologist Nikki Goldstein explains to me,.
sex in public is a fairly standard fantasy.
It is illegal, and so it is taboo,.
and we are all turned on by the idea of a taboo.
Even sharing the stories is fun.
How many brilliant conversations have.
begun with the titillating words,.
"what is the weirdest place you've ever had sex?.
" (For the record, my second weirdest.
was in a stair well during a party.
And no, you don't need to know the first.
Yep, these two were not shy.
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So what kind of person actually goes through.
with the fantasy and has sex in public?.
Well, according to Nikki,.
some public sexers are attention seekers,.
and others are just trying to be kinky.
Some have agoraphilia,.
and become aroused from having sex in public.
Most enjoy the risk of being caught.
, rather than actually being sprung mid coitus.
And then there are those who actually enjoy.
being watched having sex,.
which is when kink veers into exhibitionism.
I've never been an exhibitionist.
(except when it comes to karaoke),.
but my desire for privacy has increased.
exponentially since having kids.
It's difficult to get any private time at all,.
let alone have sex uninterrupted in my own house.
The risk of being caught is a complete mood killer.
; instead of fantasising about public sex,.
I fantasise about locked hotel rooms and.
a reliable babysitter for the kids.
So is parenthood the end to public-sex fantasies?.
Well, not necessarily, says Nikki Goldstein.
, who explains that getting sprung by.
one's children is very different.
to getting sprung by another adult.
"Getting caught having sex by your kids.
is very awkward.
Getting caught by a stranger,.
on the other hand, isn't the end of the world.
If you take a mum and dad who are always.
worried about getting caught by their kids and.
put them in a park to have sex, they will still feel excited.
Probably, I think.
Just perhaps not a play park.
We are all utterly sick of them.
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