good afternoon good morning good day good week whatever time you're watching
this is Chris the dating doc with the dating doc podcast so we're gonna talk
about the date that's we're gonna talk about today the date and you're probably
wondering okay well what do you mean the date well we talked about swiping and we
talked about texting and messaging and that's that's actually what dating has
been become more of that's kind of been the focuses is all the online stuff and
all the digital stuff but what about the date or is åsa call it courting right
that's that's a lost word that's been replaced with catfishing and zambian or
submarining oh you know all this swipe left swipe right but what about the date
the actual date okay so we're gonna go we're gonna try to make this a little
bit condensed originally I was gonna make this a little bit longer but you
know we're an ADD land nowadays people can't pay attention they can't
even steal attention so to two ways we're going to format this podcast we're
gonna go into some fun dating ideas all right got three fast ones I'm gonna hit
you with some fast ones just throw them at you and then we're gonna go in
through some components that are needed for any date you go on this is important
people I want you to listen in first off though first off we got to introduce and
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not but Andrew Andrew Andrew Andrew you are our winner you had yeah really good
really fun dating idea which is getting all the chains together going to a
Coinstar machine and using whatever cash comes out of that on a date now I
recommend this is more of a second or third date when you're with someone and
you know say hey look let's get our loose chains together let's see what
kind of money comes out of this and that is our date whether we drink and we
drown with 23 dollars or we go out there and use it for a meal or we go on a
picnic no one does that anymore but we should go on a picnic and hey we've
bought some Bologna and even a cheap bottle of wine and here we are with
those 23 dollars so Andrew you are our winner $25 Amazon
gift card there's a lot you can do that so have fun with that appreciate
appreciate your support Andrew and everyone else listening in so 3 dating
ideas we're ready are we ready we're ready ready we're about to launch this
okay let's go with number one the number one dating idea that I think will just
take you from the basic let's go to lunch let's go to Starbucks people don't
really care about how they dressed anymore and just kind of like show up
you know but we want to get into some creative ideas so first idea is
networking event what do I mean by this I mean go to a networking event if
you're professional go out there and yeah yeah you have to be on you have to
put on that that networking face but if you're both professionals this gives you
a time and a moment to see what that person is all about in a social setting
like that you know are they the overly obnoxious type are they the type that
you know name drops for the right reasons or do they name drop to gossip
are they the kind of person that interrupts conversations or they more of
a positive person that's trying to help other people build connections and leads
all right so and it's a team approach if you two get along use that to get leads
for each other bring your business cards have fun with it it's a great excuse for
the guys that get dressed up right you can't get away with just the shirt and
the shorts you got to put on a button-down or something so go out to
one of these events every city every big city has the Toastmasters chapter that's
a good way to network you got B and I you got Chamber of Commerce events these
are all happening throughout month all you have to do is google them
and use that as a date so you know what got it yeah we could have gone the whole
Starbucks still you know lacks date now let's go to this chamber
commerce event they got a little good guest speaker there that I really want
to listen to and be a good experience for us so try that as a dating idea
second one we got here is a kid date obviously these are for single parent
types you're gonna go out there and rank grab some random kid to do a kid date
that's a whole nother political talk but we won't get into that so kid date now
first things first keep in mind be mindful about the kid
date it can be planned the smart way this doesn't mean it has to be this
intimidating elaborate event just life shaking event where you now you're
introducing your kids to someone new and whatnot no it doesn't have to be like
that a kid they could be at your local Chucky Cheese type of place and you can
do in a group setting you can bring a friend along bring your favorite gal
friend to go gage with this new guys all about that way it's less intimidating it
kind of dilutes that intimidation go out there and go to an outdoor patio that's
kid friendly and you say hey look mommy's got some new friends and they
got kids and you can all play together alright so you can make any a good event
if it's a group type of setting even better
you know I obviously recommend as a second or third date it'd be a little
bit inconsiderate to do it as a first date because I think what that means is
it just has a lot of mixed signals there it says hey look I want you to meet my
kids from the get-go that's a little bit much but again eventually having that
group type of setting as a kid they it lets you see their parenting skills you
can have fun with it you can text each other across you know across the little
patio and say you know damn you looking good and I'm glad the kids are getting
along kind of deal kids are just too busy playing especially depending on the
age you know they're just busy playing and in a group setting they're not
thinking twice trust me they're not thinking twice and
saying how mommy's new boyfriend yeah not at all
in a group setting then you don't have to pinpoint that and it's great because
I know for I know for a fact I love being with my daughter
I love the presence of my daughter but I know companionship takes time and I got
to get to know someone and do I really want to be surprised by their parenting
skills later on now let's eventually get that kid date going nothing wrong with
that as long as you mindfully plan it there's nothing wrong with that number
three number three number three this is more of an idea to take to a date where
are you are you really needed something to write with and napkin or piece of
paper this is the way it works for example I asked a woman across across
the table I say look I want you to guess my favorite color and I'm gonna write it
down on a napkin she's gonna write down her guess I've written down my favorite
color I'm covering up my side of napkins she's covering hers and on a count of
three we unveil our answer so my favorite color is red and she guessed
blue turns it around oops oh man what the heck were you
thinking do I look like a blue guy conversation starter it's fun it's
competitive and it really spruce up spruces up the the coffee date or the
blunt state or even a dinner date and it's fun because then you can just
switch on up say you know what I'm gonna guess your favorite color or I'm going
to answer a trivia question and if you know the answer then obviously you know
you're gonna write that down and the other person writes down their response
and it's fun because again it gets things going you get away from the 21
questions and and and the awkward silences which it's crazy because I
coach people on how not to have these awkward silences yet I'm so surprised
that professionals from all walks of life go through these so try that try
that as an idea you know do some trivia on a napkin and answer each you know
questions and guess it's uh it's fun and get away from the initial silliness of
it because you know what else is silly is being awkwardly quiet or being so
formal during the date that you can't let yourself you know you can't let your
your uh your hair down that would that would suck right you can't you don't
want to consider this idea but you'd rather go through the awkward dates of
what not don't do that don't do that so let's review that okay we got
the networking event we got the kid date and then we got this what I call napkin
trivia napkin Q&A and I think that'd be a great wave for you guys all to spruce
up the dating environment no one I want all of yours I said in another short
video I want all of you all to be your own ambassadors of a good dating
environment and part of that is making sure the date is taken care of so I'm
gonna go through these quickly these components are needed during the dates
okay make sure that you keep mine of what you need during the date okay so
first off it needs to be safe and I mean mentally and physically it needs to be
safe make sure there's public lighting make sure there's people around last
thing you need to worry about even of a hundred percent this is a guy or gal
you're interested in attracted to safety has to be there and I'm gonna confess
something here I have tested out that theory of wondering you know what a
woman realistically go to my house on a first date and yes that's happened that
has happened and I didn't call him out on it obviously they're safe you know
that you know there wasn't anything that I didn't put them in any kind of
predicament but I wanted to know if this was possible if some woman are are you
know will they put themselves in that danger and I tell you right now that
you know obviously I'm a man that's very respectful of that I know that safety
would be a big thing for my daughter as much as it would be for my sisters and
other females in my life but as a as a date coach you know you often want to
learn those new angles and viewpoints and I'm wondering I've had woman that
have come to my house on a first date and I not to be confused with like a
something casual first date was actually showing up to my house and that could
have gone bad if it was another man it really could have so make sure the
safety is there both mentally and physically mentally meaning that you're
relaxed you feel safe you know this person is not the one that's gonna
rattle off politics you don't agree with or some sort of like social issues that
are just gonna make the day go wrong and that takes a little bit of chemistry
building in the beginning so Safety's first creativity okay we went in to do
all these dating ideas make sure your dates creative if you if you really care
about that person and if you're a woman don't be on the receiving end of that
creativity don't think let's see what this guy's gonna do how can this guy
impress me you know what sometimes you can be in charge of that as well you can
both be in charge of that creativity for a date okay don't just say you know what
what can he do for me what's that song say what can you do for me lately don't
don't anyways so yeah make sure it's creative
if you can make sure it's inspiring if you wanted to catch a speaker that
you're both been wanting to watch for a while maybe an author that's coming to
your city and you both enjoy the book well you know what that's an inspiring
date that leaves something when you come home you're like you know what that was
different I was inspired by that date so keep that in mind make it inspiring as
much as you want to make it creative and the last component which is really
important and I coach a lot of clients on this is
have have an objective have a goal a lot of folks go into these dates
saying well I'm just gonna throw spaghetti on the wall and see what
sticks that is their attitude I'm gonna throw spaghetti on the wall and see what
sticks going all these all these coffee dates all these lunch dates and whatever
sticks then you know that's that's how it works no come on now make sure you have
an objective if you're going on a date and you say you know what my objective
is I want to find out this person is just as funny as they are in in over
online is they are in person or my objective is to gauge if this person is
a family person if they're well studied and if they can avoid talking about sex
all right that last one seems like so simple but maybe that's your gauge maybe
you're like hey all these guys have just been talking about sex all the time
let's see if he can set himself apart and you can think about these goals
while you're driving to your date while you driving to the restaurant or the the
venue you're going to think about what your goals are if you don't have any
goals you're just wasting time money and gas so again I repeat make sure it's
safe make sure it's creative and inspiring they kind of go hand in hand
and have an objective that way you allow for better chemistry building okay don't
get away from a mental checklist but just have an objective say you know what
this is what I want to come out of the date and then just have fun with it so
that's that's it for now we are gonna talk about feminism next and more
specifically we're gonna get into a little bit more news references and
and getting some viewpoints from from all of you folks on on feminism if it's
a helping hurting dating and what does that mean for the future of dating
companionship in in marriage so I hope you enjoyed this this was more of a
almost a a helping type of podcast instead of a through the conceptual part
of it you know instead of having something super controversial or
anything that sort so hope you're having a good week I just came back last night
from Austin where I was at the logic concert logic is a great hip-hop artist
not a not a mumble rapper he's a great artist and I recommend you listening to
some of his tracks if you haven't yet so thank you for your time
and this is Chris the dating doc signing out
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