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This week, I wanna talk about the baggage from our past

that is affecting how confidently we date

in the present,

and at the end of this video

I'm gonna give you something that's

completely free

that I have been working on recently

that I know is gonna change your dating life.

So stay tuned for that.

Let's begin.

I get so many people every week coming to me

talking about the past.

Talking about how...

"Matt, I've been single for five years straight now."

"How do I bring that up on a date?"

Some people saying,

"Matt, I've never had a real partner."

"I've never had a boyfriend."

"How do I bring that up to somebody?"

Some people talking about how they have kids,

and how do they have that conversation.

We tend to look at a chapter from our past

that is very emotionally charged,

or has a lot of significance to our lives,

and then make that the only story.

It's like someone who's a mother or a father

telling themselves that their only identity in life

is as a mother or a father,

and that's not true.

They have quirks,

idiosyncrasies,

they're rounded

if they choose to be.

It doesn't matter that you bring up children on a first date,

or even in a first conversation.

If you've been married before

it doesn't matter that you bring that up on a first date.

The moral of this video is not

don't bring up your past,

it's be more than one story in your past.

So if you find yourself going into something going...

"You know, Matt, how do I tell him this?"

"How do I talk about this?"

It might be the case

that you're focusing on this thing too much.

I have women coming to me saying,

"Matt, I'm still a virgin."

"How do I talk about this?"

And I think you might be

thinking about this too much right now.

What matters is do you have a connection?

Are you attracted to this man?

You are more than the story of being a virgin.

What a ridiculous amount of emphasis

to put on one thing.

So go into your dating world

as a rounded person.

Look, I wanna say something to you right now,

because I know that every week

an enormous number of people

write to me talking about how they are

in a dating rut.

Nothing's really happening for them...

Maybe they've been through a heartbreak...

Maybe they're coming out of a marriage...

Or maybe they've just been single for a very long time,

but whatever is the case they feel kind of stuck,

and they wanna fresh start at love.

I started thinking about

what I could do for people

that would be quick and easy

to kick-start their love life,

and get them back out there again,

and I boiled it down to

three habits that...

In my mind, I said,

"If you do nothing else that I say,"

"but you stick to these three habits in your love life"

"it will change the game in your love life,"

"and allow you to find love ten times quicker..."

And I took these three habits,

and I put them in a free guide for you

so that you can have them today,

and start applying them in your life.

All you need to do is go to

3SecretsToLove.com

The guide will be there waiting for you.

Download it.

Start applying those habits in your life today,

and I promise you

if you do them

you will not be in a dating rut anymore.

So I made this really simple.

Go enjoy it.

It's completely free.

It's at that link,

and I will see you next week.

For more infomation >> How to Break Out of Your Dating Rut (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy) - Duration: 3:18.

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10 Reasons Why Younger Women Like Dating Older Men - Duration: 7:25.

10 Reasons Why Younger Women Like Dating Older Men

That was a nice title, we managed to get you here so we deserve a pat on our back!

Alright now back to the point, we know we said that young women like older men but before

you young boys decide to dye your hair grey to get them, it doesn't apply to every girl!

But you probably have faced a situation where you were trying to woo a girl and did everything

right, from dressing to texting to one liners but she still ended up with your senior.

We totally get you buddy, we've been there and done that.

So we thought why not help the likes of you to understand where you went wrong or rather

what are the young girls looking for.

Are you interested in this ride into a young girl's mind who goes gaga over older men?

Number 10.

They have an old world charm What do you expect to happen on a first date

with a young boy?

He'll probably come late with a goofy expression plastered on his face and say "Heyyy whaddupp

babesss"!

While some girls would fall for this carefree attitude and expect some of his "coolness"

to rub on them, others would find it a turn off!

Pulling a chair, getting flowers or giving a peck on the cheek instead of pushing your

tongue down her throat might impress her more.

After all, there is nothing like going old school in a budding romance!

Number 9.

They're more established We're not saying that younger men can't

be successful but the chances are bleak.

Older men have spent years establishing themselves and thus have higher chances of owning the

luxuries of life.

If the man owns a house, a car, maybe a holiday cottage with a boat, his lady love can enjoys

all this with him!

Women who are financially independent are also inclined to date a man who is established

or things come easy to him.

Come on, wealth makes dating more enjoyable, right?

Number 8.

They are better communicators Being a great communicator is not necessarily

based on age because some guys are born with it.

But for the rest of us, it takes a lot of time to learn the art of listening and connecting

through it.

Till the time boys haven't developed this skill, they are mostly pretending to listen

to their girls while they are undressing her in his thoughts!

We hope we haven't offended anyone with this statement because hello, we said that

in good humor or maybe that is just a cover-up!

Okay so older men are more likely to hold meaningful conversations at a first meeting

or even flirt well at a bar.

Women like this "best of both worlds" idea!

Number 7.

They've got time A young woman may have a lot of reasons to

love a man her age but it will die down if he has no time at his disposal to spend with

her!

Young men are generally too engrossed in building their career and doing late nights to impress

their superiors that they often end up with time schedules with no time slot for their

lady love.

This will not go down too well with the woman who would eventually look for a man who can

wind up work early on a Friday for a weekend getaway!

An older man seems like an ideal choice here because he is further ahead in his career

and doesn't have to put in 60 hours of work every week to earn his bread!

Number 6.

They're better at relationships You get better with experience- that is applicable

in all fields in general but for now we are focusing on the relationship bit!

While we are young, we often make mistakes and gradually learn from them.

In case of relationships, after guys are over their amateur mistakes and flaws as a boyfriend,

they become a keeper!

And age has a role to play in it, with years of dating behind them, they learn to keep

realistic expectations and lay them clear in the beginning without beating around the

bush.

Also they learn to respect their partner's needs and wants and have the confidence to

take a step when things aren't working or for the opposite!

Number 5.

They are smarter and wiser Come on now, with all those years in their

backpack, you know that they have conquered wisdom and smartness!

So while the younger boys are downing one beer after another, the older men are using

their years of experience to discuss important topics with their lady and making her fall

for his intelligence and wisdom!

Let's face it, boys take a while longer to reach maturity and some girls can't wait

for their boyfriends to grow up and that's where the older man comes in the picture!

Number 4.

They've kicked bad habits You'd probably say that with age our habits

tend to grip us even more and it gets difficult to leave behind them.

You've got a point there but you've conveniently kept the maturity aspect out of it.

While young men in their 20s would be struggling with their smoking habit or how ogling a woman

is not nice, older men have seen the long term consequences of them and have quit these

habits for good!

That makes for another reason to love a man with grey in his hair!

Number 3.

They are more confident Older men have faced their youthful insecurities,

dealt with them and moved on in life.

They have emerged victorious and lead a more confident life in general which is generally

not enjoyed by young boys.

These mature men tend to exude more comfort and create a fun atmosphere for their lady.

There is nothing sexier than a man who is confident in his own skin and makes an effort

to make others feel the same way about themselves.

That's a quality most women look for in their partner!

Number 2.

They aren't looking to change the woman An older man has been through many relationships

and has learnt that there is no point in trying to mold a woman to make her fit into his life.

He would rather go for a girl who he finds compatible with him the most and would enjoy

her being what she is.

Many women believe that even when they are living in the age of feminism, many young

men can't tolerate a woman who is strong headed, opinionated and desires independence.

Older men on the other hand have been through this phase and know that being less controlling

is the key to a happy partnership!

Number 1.

They know what they are doing in bed Get her to one orgasm with foreplay and move

to the thrusting part.

That's how most young boys behave in the intimacy of their bedrooms.

But as their experience with ladies increases, they focus more on the pleasure of their partner.

This means that they are not in a hurry to cut the chase and move to the end thing but

the foreplay session where they are getting her hot and bothered will end up with orgasms-

yes plural!

Older men know that a good night is one where their woman loses count of her orgasms.

Boys, take the hint!

What is your take on young women dating older men?

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For more infomation >> 10 Reasons Why Younger Women Like Dating Older Men - Duration: 7:25.

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The Date - The Lost Art Of Dating - Duration: 16:22.

good afternoon good morning good day good week whatever time you're watching

this is Chris the dating doc with the dating doc podcast so we're gonna talk

about the date that's we're gonna talk about today the date and you're probably

wondering okay well what do you mean the date well we talked about swiping and we

talked about texting and messaging and that's that's actually what dating has

been become more of that's kind of been the focuses is all the online stuff and

all the digital stuff but what about the date or is åsa call it courting right

that's that's a lost word that's been replaced with catfishing and zambian or

submarining oh you know all this swipe left swipe right but what about the date

the actual date okay so we're gonna go we're gonna try to make this a little

bit condensed originally I was gonna make this a little bit longer but you

know we're an ADD land nowadays people can't pay attention they can't

even steal attention so to two ways we're going to format this podcast we're

gonna go into some fun dating ideas all right got three fast ones I'm gonna hit

you with some fast ones just throw them at you and then we're gonna go in

through some components that are needed for any date you go on this is important

people I want you to listen in first off though first off we got to introduce and

we gotta announce our $25 Amazon gift card winner from last podcast all you

got to do is listen into these podcasts we do this for a reason we want to

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not but Andrew Andrew Andrew Andrew you are our winner you had yeah really good

really fun dating idea which is getting all the chains together going to a

Coinstar machine and using whatever cash comes out of that on a date now I

recommend this is more of a second or third date when you're with someone and

you know say hey look let's get our loose chains together let's see what

kind of money comes out of this and that is our date whether we drink and we

drown with 23 dollars or we go out there and use it for a meal or we go on a

picnic no one does that anymore but we should go on a picnic and hey we've

bought some Bologna and even a cheap bottle of wine and here we are with

those 23 dollars so Andrew you are our winner $25 Amazon

gift card there's a lot you can do that so have fun with that appreciate

appreciate your support Andrew and everyone else listening in so 3 dating

ideas we're ready are we ready we're ready ready we're about to launch this

okay let's go with number one the number one dating idea that I think will just

take you from the basic let's go to lunch let's go to Starbucks people don't

really care about how they dressed anymore and just kind of like show up

you know but we want to get into some creative ideas so first idea is

networking event what do I mean by this I mean go to a networking event if

you're professional go out there and yeah yeah you have to be on you have to

put on that that networking face but if you're both professionals this gives you

a time and a moment to see what that person is all about in a social setting

like that you know are they the overly obnoxious type are they the type that

you know name drops for the right reasons or do they name drop to gossip

are they the kind of person that interrupts conversations or they more of

a positive person that's trying to help other people build connections and leads

all right so and it's a team approach if you two get along use that to get leads

for each other bring your business cards have fun with it it's a great excuse for

the guys that get dressed up right you can't get away with just the shirt and

the shorts you got to put on a button-down or something so go out to

one of these events every city every big city has the Toastmasters chapter that's

a good way to network you got B and I you got Chamber of Commerce events these

are all happening throughout month all you have to do is google them

and use that as a date so you know what got it yeah we could have gone the whole

Starbucks still you know lacks date now let's go to this chamber

commerce event they got a little good guest speaker there that I really want

to listen to and be a good experience for us so try that as a dating idea

second one we got here is a kid date obviously these are for single parent

types you're gonna go out there and rank grab some random kid to do a kid date

that's a whole nother political talk but we won't get into that so kid date now

first things first keep in mind be mindful about the kid

date it can be planned the smart way this doesn't mean it has to be this

intimidating elaborate event just life shaking event where you now you're

introducing your kids to someone new and whatnot no it doesn't have to be like

that a kid they could be at your local Chucky Cheese type of place and you can

do in a group setting you can bring a friend along bring your favorite gal

friend to go gage with this new guys all about that way it's less intimidating it

kind of dilutes that intimidation go out there and go to an outdoor patio that's

kid friendly and you say hey look mommy's got some new friends and they

got kids and you can all play together alright so you can make any a good event

if it's a group type of setting even better

you know I obviously recommend as a second or third date it'd be a little

bit inconsiderate to do it as a first date because I think what that means is

it just has a lot of mixed signals there it says hey look I want you to meet my

kids from the get-go that's a little bit much but again eventually having that

group type of setting as a kid they it lets you see their parenting skills you

can have fun with it you can text each other across you know across the little

patio and say you know damn you looking good and I'm glad the kids are getting

along kind of deal kids are just too busy playing especially depending on the

age you know they're just busy playing and in a group setting they're not

thinking twice trust me they're not thinking twice and

saying how mommy's new boyfriend yeah not at all

in a group setting then you don't have to pinpoint that and it's great because

I know for I know for a fact I love being with my daughter

I love the presence of my daughter but I know companionship takes time and I got

to get to know someone and do I really want to be surprised by their parenting

skills later on now let's eventually get that kid date going nothing wrong with

that as long as you mindfully plan it there's nothing wrong with that number

three number three number three this is more of an idea to take to a date where

are you are you really needed something to write with and napkin or piece of

paper this is the way it works for example I asked a woman across across

the table I say look I want you to guess my favorite color and I'm gonna write it

down on a napkin she's gonna write down her guess I've written down my favorite

color I'm covering up my side of napkins she's covering hers and on a count of

three we unveil our answer so my favorite color is red and she guessed

blue turns it around oops oh man what the heck were you

thinking do I look like a blue guy conversation starter it's fun it's

competitive and it really spruce up spruces up the the coffee date or the

blunt state or even a dinner date and it's fun because then you can just

switch on up say you know what I'm gonna guess your favorite color or I'm going

to answer a trivia question and if you know the answer then obviously you know

you're gonna write that down and the other person writes down their response

and it's fun because again it gets things going you get away from the 21

questions and and and the awkward silences which it's crazy because I

coach people on how not to have these awkward silences yet I'm so surprised

that professionals from all walks of life go through these so try that try

that as an idea you know do some trivia on a napkin and answer each you know

questions and guess it's uh it's fun and get away from the initial silliness of

it because you know what else is silly is being awkwardly quiet or being so

formal during the date that you can't let yourself you know you can't let your

your uh your hair down that would that would suck right you can't you don't

want to consider this idea but you'd rather go through the awkward dates of

what not don't do that don't do that so let's review that okay we got

the networking event we got the kid date and then we got this what I call napkin

trivia napkin Q&A and I think that'd be a great wave for you guys all to spruce

up the dating environment no one I want all of yours I said in another short

video I want all of you all to be your own ambassadors of a good dating

environment and part of that is making sure the date is taken care of so I'm

gonna go through these quickly these components are needed during the dates

okay make sure that you keep mine of what you need during the date okay so

first off it needs to be safe and I mean mentally and physically it needs to be

safe make sure there's public lighting make sure there's people around last

thing you need to worry about even of a hundred percent this is a guy or gal

you're interested in attracted to safety has to be there and I'm gonna confess

something here I have tested out that theory of wondering you know what a

woman realistically go to my house on a first date and yes that's happened that

has happened and I didn't call him out on it obviously they're safe you know

that you know there wasn't anything that I didn't put them in any kind of

predicament but I wanted to know if this was possible if some woman are are you

know will they put themselves in that danger and I tell you right now that

you know obviously I'm a man that's very respectful of that I know that safety

would be a big thing for my daughter as much as it would be for my sisters and

other females in my life but as a as a date coach you know you often want to

learn those new angles and viewpoints and I'm wondering I've had woman that

have come to my house on a first date and I not to be confused with like a

something casual first date was actually showing up to my house and that could

have gone bad if it was another man it really could have so make sure the

safety is there both mentally and physically mentally meaning that you're

relaxed you feel safe you know this person is not the one that's gonna

rattle off politics you don't agree with or some sort of like social issues that

are just gonna make the day go wrong and that takes a little bit of chemistry

building in the beginning so Safety's first creativity okay we went in to do

all these dating ideas make sure your dates creative if you if you really care

about that person and if you're a woman don't be on the receiving end of that

creativity don't think let's see what this guy's gonna do how can this guy

impress me you know what sometimes you can be in charge of that as well you can

both be in charge of that creativity for a date okay don't just say you know what

what can he do for me what's that song say what can you do for me lately don't

don't anyways so yeah make sure it's creative

if you can make sure it's inspiring if you wanted to catch a speaker that

you're both been wanting to watch for a while maybe an author that's coming to

your city and you both enjoy the book well you know what that's an inspiring

date that leaves something when you come home you're like you know what that was

different I was inspired by that date so keep that in mind make it inspiring as

much as you want to make it creative and the last component which is really

important and I coach a lot of clients on this is

have have an objective have a goal a lot of folks go into these dates

saying well I'm just gonna throw spaghetti on the wall and see what

sticks that is their attitude I'm gonna throw spaghetti on the wall and see what

sticks going all these all these coffee dates all these lunch dates and whatever

sticks then you know that's that's how it works no come on now make sure you have

an objective if you're going on a date and you say you know what my objective

is I want to find out this person is just as funny as they are in in over

online is they are in person or my objective is to gauge if this person is

a family person if they're well studied and if they can avoid talking about sex

all right that last one seems like so simple but maybe that's your gauge maybe

you're like hey all these guys have just been talking about sex all the time

let's see if he can set himself apart and you can think about these goals

while you're driving to your date while you driving to the restaurant or the the

venue you're going to think about what your goals are if you don't have any

goals you're just wasting time money and gas so again I repeat make sure it's

safe make sure it's creative and inspiring they kind of go hand in hand

and have an objective that way you allow for better chemistry building okay don't

get away from a mental checklist but just have an objective say you know what

this is what I want to come out of the date and then just have fun with it so

that's that's it for now we are gonna talk about feminism next and more

specifically we're gonna get into a little bit more news references and

and getting some viewpoints from from all of you folks on on feminism if it's

a helping hurting dating and what does that mean for the future of dating

companionship in in marriage so I hope you enjoyed this this was more of a

almost a a helping type of podcast instead of a through the conceptual part

of it you know instead of having something super controversial or

anything that sort so hope you're having a good week I just came back last night

from Austin where I was at the logic concert logic is a great hip-hop artist

not a not a mumble rapper he's a great artist and I recommend you listening to

some of his tracks if you haven't yet so thank you for your time

and this is Chris the dating doc signing out